Most people think they know what intimacy means. They think it means sex. Or closeness. Or saying I love you and meaning it. But when clients sit across from me and say they want more intimacy in their relationship, they're rarely talking about any of those things. They're talking about something harder to name. They want to feel understood. Heard. Like their perspective actually landed somewhere instead of dissolving into the air between them. Like the argument that keeps ha

Something happens when your partner comes to you hurting. Before you even realize it, you're searching for a solution. You're trying to help—but she often feels managed instead of understood. The problem isn't that you're doing something wrong. It's that most men were taught how to solve problems, not how to sit with emotions. And sometimes what she needs most isn't advice. It's your presence. Not a fix. Not an answer. Just you, staying in the room.

She is not too much. The silence just makes her feel that way. Yes, she is angry. Of course she is. But anger is just the part you can see. Underneath it is something much quieter and much heavier — a woman who reached for the person she loves most and hit a wall. Nobody talks about that part. She Was Never Given Permission To Take Up Space Before we talk about the argument, we have to talk about everything that came before it. From the time she was a little girl, she was han

Excerpt: Many men were taught to survive through silence, problem-solving, and emotional control. But the same instincts that once protected them can quietly create distance in the relationships they are trying to keep.

If you go quiet when things get hard, it's not because you don't care. Here's what's actually happening underneath the silence — and why it makes complete sense.

It is never about the dishes. If you and your partner keep having the same argument about small things, here's what is actually happening underneath it - and how to sto the loop.