Couples Therapy for Pursue-Withdraw Cycle & Men Who Shut Down · Online Therapy Colorado · Available Worldwide
Neither of you is the problem. The pattern is.
Structured, Gottman-informed therapy for couples caught in the pursue-withdraw cycle — one partner shuts down, the other keeps chasing connection. We name the pattern and build the skills to break it, including for couples where ADHD is part of the picture. Licensed in Colorado. Available worldwide.
Couples Therapist in Colorado Helping Partners Break the Pursue-Withdraw Cycle
"Clients come not just to talk, but to understand their patterns an d shift them."
LPC · License #0021990.Colorado Licensed Counselor Virtual Only: Available worldwide Colorado & International Clients Virtually
Areas of Focused Support
Couples Counseling
Break the pursue-withdraw cycle where one person shuts down and the other keeps chasing. Learn how to stay connected during conflict instead of repeating the same fight.
Each service is designed around structured, intentional work — not open-ended venting. The goal is to leave sessions with clarity and practical next steps.
ADHD Couples Therapy
When ADHD turns one partner into the relationship's manager, resentment builds even when love hasn't gone anywhere. I help couples rebuild a system that works with the ADHD brain instead of against it.
Men's Therapy
High-functioning on the outside, running on empty underneath. I help men understand what's driving the shutdown, the irritability, or the sense of just managing life instead of living it — whether or not a relationship is part of the picture.
Investment
Individual Sessions: $175 per sessionInsurance accepted for individual sessions — check with your provider to confirm your specific benefits and coverage.
Couples Sessions: $190 per 50-minute sessions. Couples sessions are private pay only; insurance is not accepted for couples work. Sessions may be extended to 75-minute for $250 to add flexibility in pacing.
A free 15-minute consultation is available before your first session, so you can ask questions and make sure it's the right fit before committing.
FAQs
Why do couples keep having the same fight?
Most recurring arguments are not really about the topic on the surface. They are about unmet needs underneath — feeling unseen, not enough, or alone in the relationship. Until those underlying patterns are named, the same fight keeps finding new triggers.
Why do men shut down during conflict?
Shutting down is rarely indifference. Most men who go quiet during conflict are flooded — their nervous system is overwhelmed and emotional language becomes inaccessible. It is a learned response that made sense long before the relationship started.
Is online therapy as effective as in-person?
Research consistently shows online therapy produces outcomes equivalent to in-person therapy. For many clients virtual sessions are actually easier to commit to consistently — which matters more than the format.
Do you work with individuals or only couples?
Both. Many clients come individually — men who want to understand their own patterns, partners trying to make sense of the dynamic, or individuals navigating major life transitions including living abroad.
Do you take insurance?
Yes, for individual sessions — insurance is accepted, and I'd recommend confirming your specific benefits with your provider before booking. Couples sessions are private pay only; I don't bill insurance for couples work, which allows for extended 75-minute sessions and more flexibility than a standard insurance hour typically allows.
Can I work with you if I live outside Colorado?
Yes. Therapy is available to clients located in Colorado. Coaching — which addresses the same relationship and communication patterns — is available to anyone anywhere in the world.
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Structured, intentional therapy for individuals and couples. Based in Colorado. Available online to clients in Colorado and internationally.